Hello everyone, I have literally no one to share the terrible feeling i am having right now. So i will be very clear I have an abusive father he only abuses in house ,use very bad words for me my mother... He respects no one. Today also he abused me in an indirect way and he had no clue how i got effected. I just want to ask what should i do? I know that being at peace and calm and just not reacting will be best but, the kind of words he used made my mind went off! Suggestions please.

I read your terrible situation, I am praying for your situation and environment become relaxing, stressfree. We pray, God, Heals very soon. 

I did Meditation for receiving intuitive , Divine Solution in this type of situation. 

Let me share some easy and faithfull active steps , you can take ...in result ...I just pray that you become strong and confident.

We can not change another person , it is better we need to take initiative and start taking right Action towards right Direction.

✔️ Write your problems in the rough paper and tear the paper in small pcs and flush it in the toilet.

✔️ Pray innocently and whole Heartedly to God with the Belief that God is far big than our problem.

✔️ Now write your good qualities and Potential and praise for all you have.

✔️ If you can avoid tamasic food which can support you to be free from Anger and negativities 

✔️ Share your results, however, they are ...1% to 10 %. Make it universal from Personal. Feel as Family member. 

Thank you 
 

Please calm down, when people radiate disrespect, criticism, abusive language, anger, please have a lot of mercy for them. They are in pain somebody who is not well inside.

A lot of things, situations, people are just out of our control so please don't react. Stop feeding the feeling of anger I tell you in our life we will always have a stimulus and we can choose to respond because between the stimulus and response is our choice.

Learn how to respond, be strong and try to enhance yourself spiritually. In BHAGVAD GITA, chapter 2, verses 62 and 63 the Lord explains about ANGER please read them and you will understand the true reason for Anger.

Always remember Forgiveness is a great virtue.

May Lord Krishna be your shining guide always.

Take care.

sorry to know about your situation.
You feel embarrassed when you face such situation but don't every problem has a solution . 
You should start following your goals and get ready to face all things for that you should start writing n meditation.
start writing your goal on a diary.
learn to say No accept the situation you will automatically see the change.
you should start searching root cause it will help you to change the situation.
start meditate on heart chakra n third eye chakra it will help you to remove your fear and help you to reach your goal.
Be brave take pledge for better life.
 God Bless you dear takecare.
 

Hi. Very sorry to hear about your situation. I don’t know if there’s a facility here, but if you would like  to talk to someone, I am here for you. kindly leave a message here and we can see how we can go about it. (If you have whatsapp we can talk too)

Namaste,

I am sorry to hear that.. and what i would like you to suggest is stay positive and never invite negative feelings or thoughts in your soul.

Whatever he talks bless him and say god bless you.. and give a smile.. he may wonder and get even anger, but he will 10 times like that, during 11th time he will change.

He will feel inner about his attitude and later he will def. change from his present life style to positive man.

Give him water or food by praying say that he should change.. from his negative attitude and behave a good man. Def. this will work wonders.

Also to remove negative energy in home.. keep bowl of rock salt in front of the enterance and keep each bowl in  room. you will see peaceful.

try it out and share your feedback.

Thanks.

Hello there, I am sorry that you are going through such a terrible situation in life. 

I would advise you to look at your problem carefully, see what you can do about it. You should take action for things you feel you can change and accept the things and leave it to some higher power you believe for things you can't change. 

Meanwhile, working on what you like and pursuing your hobbies will help you distract your mind. Read some good self help books too. I would advice you to read Robin Sharma and Paulo Coelho.

May you heal real soon, good luck:)

Study hard and become independent. Get a job and take your mother with you. Read good books and give moral support to your mother. Join Samarpan, dhyaana yoga. You will find lot of relief in this group. Become the followerror of Shiv Krupa nanda swami and learn simple methods of doing meditation. It is free of cost. You can send prayer to this group and it will be answered. Pl do join bfr it is too late. Google www. samarpan meditation 

Hello,

I understand how you are feeling, and I know as a human we are reactive when we hear wrong words or abusive words said against us. You have two choices, you either choose to react which would perhaps make no difference for the significant other who is abusive, or you choose to be silent as you make the wise decision not to react to an impulsive nature of the other person.

Choosing to be at peace means you are helping yourself not to get worked up, while slowly forgiving the other person behaviour because it is obvious that their anger emotions are not in their control. The way you react to a situation always matters. When you keep a peaceful attitude to something like this, not only you are being a giver in this but you are doing yourself a favour about not getting affected while you are giving another person a chance to introspect their behaviour (regardless if they realize or not). 

When you feel that you are going to burst out, slowly count (10-1) reverse and excuse yourself from the room so that you are able to take a minute to relax. 

Hope you will rise above this situation

Stay blessed

Dr.Stuti Pardhe (Naturopath and Mental Health Practitioner ) 

One of the persons I am helping heal from other health issues had an abusive father. Just last month she started practising the following and has worked in her favour. Something their family had not seen for 34 yrs happened. He is taking care of his family/  wife with respect  and love. That case study will be published shortly in part 2 of this article. As of now, i encourage you to practice blessings from this article.

http://www.wellcure.com/body-wisdom/284/the-magical-power-of-blessings-part-1

We are all familiar with people suffering with physical issues, but we have not been taught to recognise people with emotional illness. If your father had a physical condition you might have come here seeking for help to help heal him and your emotional status would not be the same isn’t it. It would be more empathetic. Now also, try to swim against your circumstances and think about a happy thought and despite what your reality is, practice gratitude for giving you loving parents. It may sound weird, but the more you practice genuine gratitude for what you lack, things won’t change. In your scenario, you can’t expect to talk sense into your father who has been this way for years. What I am advising is something that you have to force and learn to practice even if you don’t know how it works or believe it. 

I don’t know what capacity you have to change his food habits . Wholefood plant based with focus on raw foods helps clean mind body and spirit. 

Be blessed
Smitha Hemadri (educator of natural healing practices)

See ,this can be tough and it could have been worse. 
You need to look out at the brighter side that you've got a life and a family and you are physically healthy .
i can understand it can be impossible sometimes to keep your mind calm in such situations.
But you need to understand that this is the truth and you have to fight this.

These are some suggestions you can consider :-

• Try to find out the reason behind his such outrage.may be there is something deep inside hurting him mentally he couldn't share to anyone. 
• There may be some problem with his diet. Make sure his diet doesn't includes of any dairy product and anything related of animal thus making his mind light and stable.
• Try to increase positive energy in your house by increasing circulation of air around leaving all the corners vacant thus eradicating toxin out of the body because of healthy breathing. 
• Go outdoors and interact with nature by doing meditation and yoga on a daily basis.you cannot avoid your mental trauma but you can definitely learn to smile with it for sake of your health.

You cannot change his behaviour all of sudden. It will take  time but try to talk to him .communicate with him. Spend some time with your father and try to understand him more and if possible convince him to take yoga classes. It can change anyone's state of mind.

नमस्ते

आप ख़ुद को प्यार दें। फिर बाहरी लोग के कर्म का प्रभाव आप पर नहीं पड़ेगा। ख़ुद का respect करें तो किसी और से सम्मान की चाह नहीं होगी। ख़ुद से ख़ुद को मीठे बोल बोलें तो दूसरों के अपशब्द का प्रभाव नहीं पड़ेगा।

प्रतिदिन आप ख़ुद को प्यार दें अपने बारे में 10 अच्छी बातें कोरे काग़ज़ पर लिख कर और प्रकृति को अपने होने का धन्यवाद दें।

मानसिक समस्या भी इसी शरीर की समस्या है सब कुछ इस बात पर निर्भर करता है कि हम किसी भी परिस्थिति में सकारात्मक सोंच रखते हैं या नकारात्मक।

प्राकृतिक जुड़ाव आपको सकारात्मक सोंच प्रदान करेंगी क्योंकि प्राकृतिक जीवन शैली अपने आप में पूर्ण भी है और जीवंत भी है। पाँच तत्व से प्रकृति चल रही है और उसी पाँच तत्व से हमारा शरीर चल रहा है।

1 आकाश तत्व- एक खाने से दूसरे खाने के बीच में विराम दें। रोज़ाना 15 घंटे का उपवास करें जैसे रात का भोजन 7 बजे तक कर लिया और सुबह का नाश्ता 9 बजे लें। वाद्य यंत्र शास्त्री संगीत (instrumental classical music)सुनें।

2 वायु तत्व- लंबा गहरा स्वाँस अंदर भरें और रुकें फिर पूरे तरीक़े से स्वाँस को ख़ाली करें रुकें फिर स्वाँस अंदर भरें ये एक चक्र हुआ। ऐसे 10 चक्र एक टाइम पर करना है। ये दिन में चार बार करें।

अपने कमरे में ख़ुशबू दार फूलों को रखें।

3 अग्Iनि तत्व- सूर्य उदय के एक घंटे बाद या सूर्य अस्त के एक घंटे पहले का धूप शरीर को ज़रूर लगाएँ। सर और आँख को किसी सूती कपड़े से ढक कर। जब भी लेंटे अपना दायाँ भाग ऊपर करके लेटें ताकि आपकी सूर्य नाड़ी सक्रिय रहे।

4 जल तत्व- नहाने के पानी में ख़ुशबू वाले फूलों का रस मिलाएँ। नींबू या पुदीना का रस मिला सकते हैं। 4 पहर नहाएँ। सुबह नाश्ते के पहले नहाएँ। दोपहर खाने के पहले नहाएँ। शाम को सूर्य अस्त से पहले और रात को सोने से पहले नहाएँ। खाना खाने से एक घंटे पहले पेट के ऊपर गीला सूती कपड़ा लपेट कर रखें या खाना के 2 घंटे बाद भी ऐसा कर सकते हैं।

मेरुदंड (स्पाइन) सीधा करके बैठें। हमेशा इस बात ध्यान रखें और हफ़्ते में 3 दिन मेरुदंड का स्नान करें। मेरुदंड स्नान के लिए अगर टब ना हो तो एक मोटा तौलिया गीला कर लें बिना निचोरे उसको बिछा लें और अपने मेरुदंड को उस स्थान पर रखें। 

सर पर सूती कपड़ा बाँध कर उसके ऊपर खीरा और मेहंदी या करी पत्ते का पेस्ट लगाएँ,नाभि पर खीरा का पेस्ट लगाएँ।पैरों को 20 मिनट के लिए सादे पानी से भरे किसी बाल्टी या टब में डूबो कर रखें।

5 पृथ्वी- सब्ज़ी, सलाद, फल, मेवे, आपका मुख्य आहार होगा। आप सुबह खीरे का जूस लें, खीरा 1/2 भाग +धनिया पत्ती (10 ग्राम) पीस लें, 100 ml पानी मिला कर पीएँ। 2 घंटे बाद फल नाश्ते में लेना है।

दोपहर में 12 बजे फिर से इसी जूस को लें। इसके एक घंटे बाद खाना खाएँ। शाम को नारियल पानी लें फिर 2 घंटे तक कुछ ना लें। रात के सलाद में हरे पत्तेदार सब्ज़ी को डालें, नारियल की गिरि मिलाएँ।

लाल, हरा, पीला शिमला मिर्च 1/4 हिस्सा हर एक का मिलाएँ। इसे बिना नमक के खाएँ, बहुत फ़ायदा होगा।

जानवरों से उपलब्ध होने वाले भोजन वर्जित हैं।

तेल, मसाला, और गेहूँ से परहेज़ करेंगे तो अच्छा होगा।एक नियम हमेशा याद रखें ठोस(solid) खाने को चबा कर तरल (liquid) बना कर खाएँ। तरल  को मुँह में घूँट घूँट पीएँ। खाना ज़मीन पर बैठ कर खाएँ। खाते वक़्त ना तो बात करें और ना ही TV और mobile को देखें।ठोस  भोजन के तुरंत बाद या बीच बीच में जूस या पानी ना लें। भोजन हो जाने के एक घंटे बाद तरल पदार्थ  ले सकते हैं।

हफ़्ते में एक दिन उपवास करें। शाम तक केवल पानी लें, प्यास लगे तो ही पीएँ। शाम 5 बजे नारियल पानी और रात 8 बजे सलाद लें।

धन्यवाद।

रूबी, 

प्राकृतिक जीवनशैली प्रशिक्षिका व मार्गदर्शिका (Nature Cure Guide & Educator)